Are you happy? Do you wake up in the morning excited to tackle your day? In my line of work, I come across many girlfriends that are searching for the secrets to finding happiness and success in their professional and personal life. From where I sit, there are a couple themes that keeping popping up in the lives of women that are struggling to achieve their “sass”.
You are waiting for others to change your universe.
If I had a penny for every time I saw this one, I would be quite wealthy by now! Stop waiting for someone or something else to change your life. If it’s a marriage, you need to figure out how to make YOU happy. If it’s a job, find out what YOU can change in your career to achieve your goals. YOU are the captain of your own ship. You are in charge of steering the ship to your desired destination. Only you have the control to change your direction.
You surround yourself with people that don’t bring out the BEST in you.
If there are toxic people in your life, take some action now! It’s very possible that some of these people are family or close friends. If so, you need to reassess what part they should be allowed to play in your life. So how do you know if they’re bad for you? When you’re finished spending time with these individuals, you’re exhausted and unhappy. You feel as if the life has been sucked out of you. Draw some lines in the sand and take care of yourself.
You focus on what you DON’T have instead of what you DO have in your life.
There are times in our lives when each one of us falls into this line of thinking. However, there are some girlfriends that don’t just take a vacation here— they stay here for an eternity! They spend their lives always thinking the grass is greener across the street. You have absolutely nothing to gain by living your life in this manner. You know, there really is something to this gratefulness thing everyone is talking about!
You are so obsessed with looking back, that you miss the awesome possibilities in the present and future.
The only thing that you have to gain by looking in the past is a better understanding of where things may have “gone wrong”. Once you have this self-awareness, you can move forward to make the changes needed to be happy and healthy in the future. You can change the patterns and behaviors that are holding you back. Beyond that, the past is the past. Let go of this negative pattern and live for today.
You get way too comfortable in your life and refuse to move forward
Welcome to 2012! Life changes and your ability to roll with those changes are pivotal to your happiness and success. I have seen girlfriends dig in their heels and refuse to step outside their comfort zone. What’s the worst that can happen— you feel a bit uncomfortable? If you want to be happy and successful then you need to keep challenging yourself. Consider whether you are challenging yourself emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally and incorporate this mentality into your life.
Girlfriends, don’t become a victim to one of these poisonous behaviors. Recognize your negative pattern and get help, if needed, to make some changes in your life. You deserve so much better!